Thursday, March 19, 2009

So my sister calls me

I haven't heard from my sister in probably 17 years (or more) and she calls me tonight - out of the blue. I usually don't answer the land line because most of the people who call that number are looking for a local business that is right by my name in the phone book. I looked at the caller id and a former boyfriend's name was on it (the rock climber). Hmmmm, I thought. Why in the hell would this asshole be calling me? I answered because I really wanted to know. It turns out, he wasn't calling me. My sister is now this guys girlfriend, she's living with him and called me from his phone. I'm still not sure what to think. The one thing my sister and mother had most in common was taking my sloppy seconds. She can have him. I don't know why she wants him, but, she can have him.

I tried to tell her he was an abusive alcoholic, but she doesn't see it. She has been with him a year, they have had their knock down, drag outs, and they are still together.

Now, it is close to bed time and I'm all in the fight or flight mode. I really do feel like running just as far and as fast as I possible can. My head knows better. But I also know there will be no sleep for me tonight. She talked to me forever like we had only seen each other last month.

If I thought for one second that she was really calling because she misses me and wants to see if we can be sisters again, I'd be cool with that. But I really think she was calling me thinking she could rub my nose in the "you lost him, now I have him" crap that she and mom always love to do. My stomach churns. I don't know why it bothers me that they are like that.

Anyway, I guess I could be wrong. I guess time will tell. Hey, who can't use more stress in their lives? She says she is about the same kind of alcoholic Dale is, so yes, it would be stress.

On a brighter note - I am now getting good hours at work and am making progress with some clients already! I really like them too. I can't believe I actually have a job where I get to work with every kind of person I ever wanted to work with! This is too cool!

I have to study this weekend for my GRE. They sent me the practice book, and so far I am doing ok with it. I must have done an ok job learning about what I was supposed to learn about.

I hate March madness. I already miss my soaps. Well, ok, that's a lie, but I'd rather see them than stupid basketball.

Ok, I've been writing for a while now. I am no more calm than I was when I started. I really need to figure out why this call has alarmed me so much.



  1. Wow.

    Well, I guess you would get worked up a bit about all that. It does seem pretty creepy and weird that she'd "hook up" with him after everything you've told her about him. But, then again, people do the strangest things out of spite. And, in the end, it's sort of short-cycle karma working itself out, isn't it?

    Hey, at least your life is changing for the better! A job you like and furthering your education which will help you get more jobs you like. Seems like a good trade, to me!
    Hang in there and things will get even better.

  2. Thank you so much for the encouraging words, Jim. I thought about it more last night (what else was I going to do?) and I think it comes down to this: I am glad I got him out of my life! I am so glad I didn't stay with him. I was doing great without the stress of my drug using family too. I really am doing great without all of that drama. I am really not interested in going down that road again - not again. If she was even trying to be clean that would be another thing, but she isn't. And he isn't. I can't think of two people who deserve each other more.

    But she's my sister, and it hurts. It brings up a lot of old stuff that I had hoped I would never have to look at again. I'm looking at it now, and it's hideous.

    I just wish I hadn't answered the phone.

  3. I can understand that it would hurt and would go round your head. But as you say sounds as though they deserve each other.
    Great to hear your job is going so well!